BUT ITS TOO HARD TO CHANGE THINGS!

An earlier post was entitled : "Is it easier to keep suffering stress? '

Its true that sometimes, its too hard to make a change: it requires real effort to do something different.

Maybe we feel we do not have time to spend thinking and making some changes.

Maybe we are frightened to make any change: its threatening. We don't know what may happen.

Maybe we don't want to upset things, to rock the boat.

Maybe its easier just to take some pills.  Then we rely on pills for our peace. Wise move??  No!

So if that the case, we will continue to get what we always got :  continued stress.

Think about it: if you want less stress in your life, who is going to do it for you?  Only YOU - by taking some action.

The whole world and our body change every day: when you look at it, change is part of life.

Maybe we should try to get used to the idea of CHANGE - then think about our lives.

Have a look at the HELP PAGES for some ideas.

ACCEPTING THE PAST

Further to the previous post about GUILT ....

Carl Jung once said, "If one can accept one's sin, one can live with it. If one cannot accept it, one has to suffer the inevitable consequences." 

This means that if we do not accept our wrong past actions, they will continue to haunt us.

Sometimes we just have to accept the fact that we did wrong.

Then we can forgive ourselves: we are only human and we sometimes make mistakes.

So if you feel bad about something you have done, try the above. Really, your guilty feelings will do no good to anyone, and only damage own peace of mind.

Which will add to the load of stress you already have.

Perhaps this is one of the simplest things you can do to reduce your stress.

Can you forgive yourself?

GUILT

Do you feel GUILTY because of something you may have done, or not done?

Feeling guilty almost ensures that you will feel tense, probably without knowing it, and hence add to your stress load.

Guilt is one of the most common negative feelings we all have and can make us feel burdened down and perhaps even unworthy. It can drag us down emotionally. It will add to the stress you already have.

Yet guilt does nothing for anyone: just feeling guilty does not help the person or situation involved - does it?

Guilt is just another burden we carry around - unless we decide to get rid of it.

Here are a few ideas about getting rid of guilty feelings:

• Confess to yourself that what you did was wrong. Own up to your mistake(s).
  
• Realise that you are not perfect: you are a human being and you make mistakes - and sometimes your mistakes or bad deeds hurt someone. We all do the wrong thing at times - we're human.
  
• Having identified something you are not proud of, you can say to yourself: "I made a mistake then, doing whatever it was, but today, NOW, I would not do that again. I have changed for the better."
  
• Perhaps you can try to make amends to whoever you injured. 
• Maybe that is no longer possible, if so try writing that person a letter of apology. Then tear it up.
• Maybe you can do something for the person involved: a good turn, especially if they will not know about it, that it was from you. You will feel better: you've made amends.
• Maybe you can front up and talk to the person: they may have forgotten or not even realise that you injured them (was it only in your mind?). Or maybe you can just apologise.
• If it's not possible to contact the person involved, maybe you can visualise the person being in front of you, and apologise to them. Say it out loud: verbalising your thought makes it more powerful in removing your sense of guilt.

This is another way of reducing stress in your life: lighten your load! Give it some thought.

And learn to be kind to yourself: after all, aren't YOU your best friend??