One way some of us add stress to ourselves is keeping very busy doing stuff so that we don't have time to think about what hurts us. It's sort of an escape.
Why do we do this?
Because: it's hard to address or face what is hurting us. That is real hard - we don't want that pain back.
It is easier to just keep our minds busy so that we cannot think about it, nor feel it.
But it's a viscous circle: sooner or later those repressed feelings of hurt will bubble up and make us feel bad.
I sometimes think these repressed hurts resurface every ten years or so, but whatever the time frame is, they will come back. By ignoring them, they do not go away.
And, when there is something inside of us simmering away, it can make us tense without even knowing it.
What does this mean?
If we want inner peace to come, one day we will have to start facing those buried feelings of hurt, and deal with them once and for all.
Authors such as Eckhardt Tolle and Petrea King have specifically addressed the handling of those things that hurt us, often from long ago.
Maybe if this sounds like you, some research may be a good start.
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